Neuroqueer identities and mental health
Gender-nonconforming people are three to six times more likely to be on the autism spectrum. There are also higher rates of ADHD among gender-nonconforming people. Identifying as neuroqueer means that a person sees their neurodivergent and queer identities as interacting with each other.
The term “neurodivergent” has been gaining popularity recently. It often refers to people who have ADHD and/or are on the autism spectrum. There is a strong connection between LGBTQ+ identities and neurodivergent identities.
Facing challenges as a neuroqueer individual
Neuroqueer individuals face significant challenges to their mental health. This is due to society’s mistreatment of both neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ communities. Some of the barriers neuroqueer people experience to their mental health are:
The idea that disabled people are not gendered or sexual leads to the invalidation of neuroqueer people. Often, neurodivergent people are treated like children. This perpetuates the idea that they are incapable of having sexual relationships. These incorrect ideas negatively impact neuroqueer mental health.
The medical community used to treat neurodivergence and queer sexuality as disorders. This has led to negative attitudes and unfair treatment from the medical community and society at large. Neuroqueer people may be made to feel as if there is something wrong with who they are. This can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and isolation, which contribute to poor mental health.
The combination of these two identities can make people a target for discrimination. In one study, 38% of LGBTQ+ people reported experiencing harassment at work. In another study, 20% of neurodivergent people reported experiencing harassment at work. Identity-based hate can lead to PTSD and other mental health conditions. Discrimination at work can also lead to challenges finding and maintaining employment, which can increase anxiety.
Finding affirming mental health support can be challenging. Neuroqueer individuals need to find a therapist who is knowledgeable about neurodiversity and LGBTQ+ identities. Unfortunately, many therapists are not educated about the idea of neurodivergence as a natural part of diversity. They may still believe neurodivergence is a disorder that needs to be cured. They may also have incorrect biases or limited understanding of the specific challenges of LGBTQ+ people.
Finding support as a neuroqueer individual
Neuroqueer individuals face significant challenges to their mental health. This is due to society’s mistreatment of both neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ communities. Some of the barriers neuroqueer people experience to their mental health are:
Masking is when neuroqueer people change their behavior to fit in with society’s expectations. It is important to find places where you can unmask and be your authentic neuroqueer self. This might include wearing your favorite gender-affirming outfit and/or stimming in public. Unmasking in safe places can boost self-esteem and reduce anxiety.
Connecting with other neuroqueer people can reduce feelings of loneliness. Attending meet-ups, community events, or support groups for neurodivergent and/or queer people will allow you to find supportive people to connect with. You can also explore online communities to find belonging. These can often be more accessible for neurodivergent people to build community.
Neuroqueer people often have different needs and goals than what society expects of them. You do not have to hold yourself to society's standards of achievement, expectations of beauty, or definitions of “adulthood.” Finding full-time employment may not be accessible for you. Getting married and having kids may not align with your life goals. By creating your own definition of what “success” looks like for you, you can create a life that reflects your authentic self.
Search for therapists who specifically work with neurodivergent and queer individuals. Many neurodivergent or LGBTQ+ advocacy groups will have directories that can help you find a good fit. Working with a neuroqueer-affirming therapist can help you feel validated in your identity.
Try applying to jobs that are related to queerness and/or neurodiversity. These environments may be more accommodating and affirming. If you already have a job, you can advocate for yourself by asking for the accommodations you need to maintain your mental health. Some neuroqueer people might find starting their own business or doing freelance work to be a more accessible option. This way, they can create their own schedules and work environments.
Take a Mental Health Test
If you are struggling with your mental health, take an anonymous, free, and private mental health test. It only takes a few minutes, and after you are finished you will be given information about the next steps you can take based on the results.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. You can also reach Crisis Text Line by texting HELLO to 741741.